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Children in Wedding Ceremonies
Flowergirls at Jamie and Ted's ceremony at the Avalon in Merrillville, Indiana.

With An Escort Of Angels

They're adorable, and there is no accent to a wedding ceremony, regardless of cost, that can hope to compete with them when it comes to bringing charm to your wedding ceremony. You just need to know what their roles are, how to work with them, and how to make your ceremony a wonderful experience for them too.

Children dropping petalsChildren in many ways are miniature adults. This is to say they have the exact same range of fears and phobias that we adults have. Many children, just like many adults, are afraid to perform in public. So if you think that Karen and Trevor would make a great flower girl and ring bearer- you better ask them first!

Having found children who want to participate in your ceremony, it simply becomes a matter of finding the right role(s) for them. Children can participate in different ways. Yes, there is the traditional ring bearer and/or flower girl. But sometimes children play the role of escort(s) as when escorting their mother down the aisle in lieu of an adult.

One of the cutest roles for a child (or children) is when he/she/they announce the bride as bell ringers. This child (or children) walks down the center aisle ringing glass or porcelain bells proclaiming:

" The bride is coming! The bride is coming! "

You can imagine how this delights an audience as few have ever seen this role used by children in a wedding ceremony.

If you invite children to participate in your ceremony then just be patient with them. And don't be surprised if their fuses pop and they just refuse to go down the aisle. Just invite them to join us when they're ready as you walk by. Remember: adults get scared doing this.. imagine what it's like when you're six and two hundred people are staring at you.


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