Barb met Caryl during her sophomore year in high school and they quickly became the best of friends. Barb said they saw each other through everything- good and bad. Their closest of friendships, a 22 year friendship, was ended by a motorcycle accident that took Caryl from us.

Barb knew that Caryl's favorite flower was the stargazer lily. She honored her in the following way:

In mid-ceremony after the exchanges of vows and rings and the presentation of roses to family members, Barb and her groom John returned to center position. I explained to her guests the passing of her best friend

Caryl and how Barb wanted to honor her. I gave Barb a stargazer lily and asked the first and second brides- maids to part, leaving a person's width between them.

In the silence Barb stepped over to this spot, came down to floor level, and reflecting on her best friend, placed the lily where Caryl, as a bridesmaid, would have stood. The guests, and especially the flower girl and ring bearer (Caryl's surviving children) understood more fully what Caryl's friendship meant to Barb.

This is but one of many, moving and visually poetic ways, of honoring loved ones in Memoriam.