of
those ceremonies, and just as many other times they don't.
Only my couples decide if this aspect will be present in their
ceremonies.
In the twenty years I have
been officiating throughout Chicagoland, I have worked for
every religious denominaiton under the sun. And I enjoyed
working for all of them. I have been, and always will be,
very supportive of each couple's desire to include, or withhold,
this identity.
In designing your ceremony,
you really can not and should not ignore the hopes of others-
namely your parents or families. They too may have expectations
of your ceremony, and you, or your spouse to be, may have
very different views on this than they do. Maybe your families
are of very different religions? Maybe the groom's side is
devout Lutheran, and the bride's side are flaming atheists.
Now what?
The answers involve accommodation
and diplomacy. Yes, you could pull rank. After all you're
the bride and groom, and frankly, it's your wedding isn't
it? But if you throw your weight around like that with your
wedding ceremony, and ignore your loved ones, you may find
that it takes twenty years to undo the ill feelings you caused
during your wedding ceremony. Do you really want that?
Together, we'll create a ceremony
that treats everyone, excludes no one, and rewards all who've
attended. To this end I will use my skills and experience
in helping you resolve these issues by finding the right ceremonial
expression. I've been doing it for decades. We'll design your
ceremony so that it's true to you both, and respects the hopes
of others.
Religion and philosophy are
wonderful expressions of the human experience. If they are
used, let them enhance your ceremony and not detract from
it.
Be smart, be considerate, and
find common ground. Isn't this what philosophy and religion
are trying to teach us?
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