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I am a Chicago Wedding Officiant
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About Thomas Witham
How My Ceremonies Are Different
The Couples I Work For
Wedding Venues Where I've Performed
Religious & Philosophical Expression
Your Greatest Advocate
Letters of Appreciation
For Those Previously Married

Designing Your Ceremony

Facing Your Guests (Modern Format)
Backs Turned (Traditional Format)
Examples of Wedding Vows
Effective Seating
Aisle Runner or Petals
Children in Wedding Ceremonies
The Escorting of a Bride
Taking Parental Vows
The Use of Music
Using a Pedestal
Using a Wedding Carriage
A New Role For Grandparents
Wedding Ceremony Readings
In Memoriam

Ceremonies in Special Places
Ceremonies in Theme
Taking Your Ceremony to Others
Staying in Character
What Name Should I Use?
What if it Rains?
Fibbing Your Start Time
Ceremonies in Candlelight
The Reception Line

The Order of Events

Primary Options:
Read this First
The Unity Candle
Champagne Sharing
The Sand Ceremony
The Blessing Tree
Tying the Knot
Tasting the Elements
Using a Photomontage
The Giving of Roses

Options In Finale:
Butterfly Release
Dove Release
Balloon Release
Tossing Petals
Bubbles in a Wedding Ceremony
Applause Walk

The Five Rules:
Rule One
Rule Two
Rule Three
Rule Four
Rule Five

Advice on Photography
Advice on Wedding Coordinators
Death by Venue
An Invitation To Journalists

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The Couples I Work For
Bridal party at Chateau Bu-she'
Vaughn and Erin, with their bridal party in pairs at Chateau Bu-she' in Alsip, Illinois.

Chicagoland as Microcosm

As a Chicago wedding officiant, I work for everyone- every culture, every age, every religion, in every setting. And this includes the LGBTQ+ community. The photos throughout this website are a small fraction of the couples I have worked for. But they are indicative of the clientele who retain my services. Their ceremonies took place in locations such as their homes or at venues like country clubs, mansions, houses of worship, park gazebos or elaborate banquet facilities. In all cases the ceremonies I performed for them honored the relationship of marriage as well as celebrated the couples' desire to share their lives.

Groom and Flower ChildrenBut what determines how a couple chooses their officiant? I find that most couples who contact me belong to one of two groups. Those of the first group already have an appreciation of what a professional wedding officiant brings them- the know how, the experience and the directorship skills to make their ceremony outstanding. They also understand the consequences of making the wrong choice in a wedding officiant. When these couples call my office, their questioning often begins with.."What will your services and ceremony do for us?"

On the other hand, price oriented couples do little homework, typically hiring the first officiant referred to them who meets their budget. They mistakenly reason that: "Since all wedding ceremonies are the same why not find the cheapest?" Then there are those who are referred to an officiant by a coordinator or wedding venue, not realizing that such referrals are often paid for by the minister.

My approach is to educate couples- giving them a complete understanding of everything I do in a wedding ceremony and the reasoning behind it. The thoroughness of this website and a video presentation rich with novel and effective examples helps my couples to make informed decisions on hiring me. This openness rewards me with clients of similar values and expectations- couples who are a joy to work for. These couples are the clienteles I seek.

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