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The Giving of Roses (or Flowers) in Ceremony
The Giving of Roses
Brianna, with her groom Nathan looking on, presents flowers to her parents during their ceremony at Lincoln Park Conservatory - Chicago, Il.

Thanking Those Whose Love Got You Here

No event in a wedding ceremony causes such riveted attention to a bride and groom as does the presentation of roses to VIP Females. Many people feel indebted to their families- especially their parents. If this is so with you, then what better time to say thank you in a special way than during your wedding ceremony? Presenting your mom a rose during the ceremony shows both gratitude and respect for the major contribution your parents made to your life. Roses may also be presented to any VIP you wish to honor such as stepparents, grandparents, sisters or daughters. And there is no law saying you can't give a rose to a gentleman either (or to several).

Mom Receives a RoseThe ideal time to present roses is just after the lighting of the Unity Candle, or Wine Sharing etc., if either of those options are used. The bride and groom will approach the brides’ parents first. Always take your time when presenting roses; quickness diminishes any and all wedding ceremony options. Parents should always rise at the approach of the bride and groom to receive their embrace. I will be extensively rehearsing all of you on this most critical event of your ceremony.

Remember - feelings make wedding ceremonies, and the presenting of roses to parents or VIPs is a wonderful opportunity to evoke the right feelings in your guests! Your wedding planning should have many such evocative events which are also photogenic, and which get and hold the attention of the guests. People 70 rows deep in an audience will lean forward in their seats to watch you do this. No other event in a wedding ceremony commands this level of attention. I make this statement based on observing over a quarter million guests. The giving of roses reigns supreme among all wedding ceremony options.

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