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Using A Pedestal In A Wedding Ceremony
Jason and Charlene wine sharing during their ceremony as a pedestal holds their accessories at Buckingham Fountain - Chicago, Illinois.

We Want To See You
(not what's holding up your accessories)

My ceremonies are designed under the guidance of theatric principals, which is why my bridal parties face their guests. This visual accessibility must be maintained at all times during your ceremony, especially when lighting your unity candle or when you wine share or use your blessing tree etc. Those accessories (and what's holding them) must compliment your imagery- not detract from it. Photography and videography will suffer too if this is ignored. Therefore, place your ceremony accessories on a pedestal as shown above.

Three kinds of "structures" are used to hold wedding ceremony accessories:

The Pedestal. As shown above Jason and Charlene are using a pedestal. But here's the big secret... As nice as it looks, it's not a pedestal. It's a $20 bar stool from Walmart. The tablecloth is also from Walmart (70" for $5). For a total of $25 they have created this imagery for their ceremony.

High Boy or Cocktail Table. This waist high stand is what your venue will provide for you if you do not secure a pedestal. It is better than a table, but because of it's greater size, it is not as good as a pedestal.

Covered Table. The least desirable structure to hold your accessories. A table, typically draped by a white cloth, creates a huge white featureless mass in your photography as well as masking you from our view.

You can get your masonry pedestal at stores like Michael's or Hobby Lobby or Lowe's etc.

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