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What Name Should I Use?
Bride and Bridesmaids
A bride and her bridesmaids await the beginning of her ceremony.

For Some, There's a Lot in a Name

A bride once came up to me before the start of her ceremony and asked: "Tom, during the ceremony, do you have to use my real first name?" No, I said, you can be called by whatever name you like. Why do you ask? She replied that her real first name was "Joneomawanna."

Some couples want to be introduced with their new title as "Husband and Wife" while others don't. Most brides take their groom's surname, while some grooms change their surname to that of their wife's. Some brides don't change their last name to that of their husband's.

Let's say that Robert Carlin is marrying Anita Wyrick. Their introduction, at the ceremony's conclusion might go like this:

"Ladies and gentlemen, please warmly receive and welcome into the community or your families..."

  • Mr. and Mrs. Robert Carlin
  • Mr. Robert Carlin and Mrs. Anita Carlin
  • Mr. Robert Carlin and Mrs. Anita Wyric
  • Robert and Anita

These are just some suggestions. The point is that you may use any name you wish for your ceremony and be introduced to your guests at its conclusion in whatever title or name arrangement you like.

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