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Designing Your Ceremony

Facing Your Guests (Modern Format)
Backs Turned (Traditional Format)
Examples of Wedding Vows
Effective Seating
Aisle Runner or Petals
Children in Wedding Ceremonies
The Escorting of a Bride
Taking Parental Vows
The Use of Music
Using a Pedestal
Using a Wedding Carriage
A New Role For Grandparents
Wedding Ceremony Readings
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Ceremonies in Special Places
Ceremonies in Theme
Taking Your Ceremony to Others
Staying in Character
What Name Should I Use?
What if it Rains?
Fibbing Your Start Time
Ceremonies in Candlelight
The Reception Line

The Order of Events

Primary Options:
Read this First
The Unity Candle
Champagne Sharing
The Sand Ceremony
The Blessing Tree
Tying the Knot
Tasting the Elements
Using a Photomontage
The Giving of Roses

Options In Finale:
Butterfly Release
Dove Release
Balloon Release
Tossing Petals
Bubbles in a Wedding Ceremony
Applause Walk

The Five Rules:
Rule One
Rule Two
Rule Three
Rule Four
Rule Five

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Death by Venue
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Facing Forward at Naper Settlement
Frank and Caryn along with their bridal party facing forward at Naper Settlement - Naperville, Illinois.

A Collaboration Of Many Professionals, But A Vision Of One.

You are not hiring me to perform the common wedding ceremony for you; you are hiring me to perform my wedding ceremony for you. As evidenced by this website, there is a considerable difference. I honestly do not need or want input from third parties- just like your florist or photographer doesn't want advice from third parties either.

Recessional Walk at Naper SettlementI will gently lead you, like a theater director, through all the beautiful options you have chosen for your wedding ceremony. I am assisting your photographers and cueing your musicians or DJ as well. 

I govern all. This is not to control freak you. It's to get results. You have spent thousands on this. Your reputations and those of your families are on the line as well. And if you are the typical bride or groom you will have from 20 to 400 eyeballs on you for 30 minutes straight.

You are hiring me for results. I'm going to deliver those results - in spades. It's just that from time to time a wedding coordinator, a future mother in law or even a bridesmaid will take it on themselves to advise me on how to perform a wedding ceremony. They invariably become offended should I disagree with their suggestions, not to mention the time that is lost during a rehearsal. Some ministers really don't care if the ceremony they perform is designed or rehearsed by someone else. I'm not one of them.

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